It’s no secret
that females are complex creatures. We don’t normally say what we mean,
everything has a secret meaning that we hope guys pick up on, but they
literally never do. So, since females aren’t direct, and most males don’t know
how to take a hint, there is normally some kind of complication when it comes
to communicating with each other. But, fear no more, this post is going to be
an explanation on the different ways girls flirt with guys, and the secret
meanings behind the things we say. (TBH there shouldn’t even be secret
meanings, life would be so much easier if everyone just said what they mean, unfortunately
that’s not the case)
Most girls flirt
indirectly. So if you are interested in someone and you can’t tell if they are
flirting with you, check for these things. DISCLAIMER: I am not speaking on
behalf of all girls, these are just things I have realised many girls do / I do
myself.
Flirting in
person
- They
lock eyes with you / glance at you a lot: I know that about 80% of my friends do this when they like
someone, ESPECIALLY at a party or in a public place. If a girl is glancing over
at you and smiling or quickly looks away when you look at her (and she does it
more than once), she is into you and is trying to subtly flirt. If a girl is
doing this, and you like her, WALK UP TO HER. There is a very high chance that
she likes you back
- If
she always seems to be around:
If the girl always seems to be where you are, when she doesn’t really need to
be there, then it’s a sign that she likes you. If you bump into her a lot or if
she always drops something in front of you, she’s trying to initiate a
conversation. If someone likes you they will always try to be near you whenever
possible
- Out
of their way to talk to you:
If you are at a party and a girl comes from across the room to talk to you it’s
a very clear sign that she likes you. One thing girls do a lot is they will
talk to someone right next to you and will try and get themselves introduced to
you, if this happens they like you and you should definitely initiate a
conversation with them
- Subtly
touches you: If a girl
likes you she will subtly touch you, especially on the arm. If you tell a funny
joke and she pushes your shoulder and laughs, or is she just touches your arm
while asking a question it’s a good sign. Most girls do this subconsciously. It
is important to pay attention to body language though. She could just be a
touchy person, pay attention to the way she behaves when she’s around you and
when she with other guys / people.
Flirting over
social media
- Pops
up: If a girl pops up to
you on social media out of nowhere she definitely thinks you are cute / likes
you. If she replies to your “pop up” stories or snaps often then she probably
likes you. If she always asks for a TBH or rate she likes you. If she sends X’s
during normal convo that’s a good sign, but if she only sends you x’s at
the end of a conversation, that is not a for sure sign that she is flirting as
it is common occurrence for girls to send x’s at the end of conversations.
- Follow
and like: (DISCLAIMER FROM FUTURE ME: THIS STUFF WORKS WHEN YOU ARE 14-16, NO ONE OVER THE AGE OF 17 WHO IS SANE DOES THIS ONE) This one
sounds kind of dumb but I swear to you it’s worked for me on multiple times on
guys. (This is if she is a new follower) If a girl follows you on Instagram and
then likes only your most recent photo she does this for a reason. She is
waiting for you to like one of hers back. If she likes your post and you like
one of her photos back, then she’ll like another one. If a girl likes your
photo a second time, after you liked her photo, that’s a sign for you to pop up.
- Late
night convos: If she
stays up late to talk to you, despite her being tired, she definitely likes
you. Take note, if she tells you that she’s tired, but she would rather talk to
you then sleep (or something along those lines) she likes you a lot. Also, if
she stays up to help you with something / listen to you rant, then goes to bed
right afterwards, that is a good sign because it means she stayed up
specifically to help you. Be aware though, this is what any good friend would
do, so if you assume she likes you based purely on this one point, you won’t
have an accurate assumption. But, combine this with the x’s and the popping up,
the liking of your photos and TBHs, then that’s an accurate way to tell if she
likes you.
Female à Male translation
- “I’m
fine” – She isn’t fine.
If she says this after an argument with someone else, simply say that you don’t
like seeing her sad and if there is anything you can do to help, if she asks to
be left alone, then leave her alone. If she says this after having a fight with
you or if you did something annoying, don’t pester her into telling you what’s
wrong. Leave her alone for a couple of hours and try again later to solve the
issue.
- “wanna
play truth or dare” – If
a girl asks to play truth or dare with you either right when you meet or the
first few times you text, she’s trying to get to know you better to see if you
two are compatible. If she picks a lot more dares then truths then she is most
likely looking for a more casual fling rather a relationship (which is totally
fine), if she picks mostly truths then she is probably looking for a deeper
connection. If she picks the same amount of both, she is either trying to
figure you out or isn’t sure what she wants yet.
- The
friend zone – The friend
zone can be a confusing place for guys, but it’s probably the most straight
forward a girl will ever be. If a girl puts you in the friend zone then she
simply doesn’t see you in a romantic way. Girls brains are programed into 2
parts, the ‘friend zone and the dateables’ We don’t really have control over
it, it kind of just happens subconsciously.
Honourable
mentions
- When girls put
sad ass quotes on their story, it’s pretty much a cry for attention. If it’s a
quote about not needing someone, or about being mad at someone, and you just
had an argument with them that quote is definitely directed at you.
- When doing
research for this post, a lot of guys told me that girls never know what we
want. To be honest, we don’t know what we want. Most of the time we have no
fcking idea. Give us some time to think things over if we are caught in
dilemma with you, eventually we will figure out what we want.
Honestly, all
this stuff helps but there is only one way for you to know for sure… Just ask
her! Everyone is so scared of rejection and are way too worried about what
people think of them. If you like someone just tell them, the only way a
relationship or friendship will last / work is through communication. Girls,
instead of low key flirting, just ask the guy if they want to hang out. Us
girls need to start saying what we mean. And boys, don’t be afraid of
rejection, take rejection and use it as a chance to grow, don’t beat yourself
up over it.
Even if a girl is giving you all the above signs, that does
not equal to consent.
Hope you enjoyed this post! Thanks for reading. Until next time
-Mikala
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